It isn’t what we say or think that defines us, but what we do.
—Jane Austen
We should make it a habit to tell people we are thankful for them, for the things they do for us, and for the ways they show that they care about us. But more than that, our actions should proclaim just how thankful we are.
We should show our thanks. After all, actions always speak louder than words.
To give you a few ideas on how to let others see what’s in your heart, here are seven ways to show you’re thankful.
- Be considerate.
Be good to your work, your word, and your friend.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson
Rather than immediately thinking of ourselves, we should consider others. Everyone has an opinion, a preference, a schedule, and day-to-day life details to deal with. There’s no better way for us to show someone we’re thankful for them than by being considerate of their situation, feelings, and wants.
- Be intentional.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
—Albert Camus
You don’t even have to go out of your way to be intentional with your time. Just avoid distractions while you’re hanging out and show you’re thankful simply by giving your full attention.
- Be thoughtful.
Never be so busy as not to think of others.
—Mother Teresa
Handwrite a card and send it in the mail. Put important dates in your calendar. Set reminders for when someone has an appointment. Send a message of encouragement when someone is stressed or worried. Remember to remember.
- Be humble.
In humility value others above yourselves.
—Philippians 2:3b
It doesn’t matter our job, background, age, or level of success. If we consider others above ourselves (their time, their wants, their feelings), we’ll quickly develop a humble attitude.
- Be gentle.
There is no charm equal to the tenderness of heart.
—Jane Austen
Everyone has feelings. When we respond to someone, we should keep that in mind. Be a source of calm. Sooth situations. If you’re an Enneagram enthusiast, this might mean you attempt to be a little more 9-like. 😉
- Be kind.
Kindness is a language the blind can see and the deaf can hear.
—Mark Twain
Yes, we should be kind to strangers, but we should also be kind to the people we’re grateful are in our lives. We can express our thankfulness to them by being kind. Much of this is has to do with demeanor and how we come across. So, let’s be kind.
- Be approachable.
Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.
—Charles Dickens
Talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly. But let others know they can talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly with you. Listen to people. Hear what they have to say. Spin the positive side of things. And assume the best.
I write these as much—ok, ok, more—to myself than to anyone reading these words. I hope the people I’m thankful for will know that I am by my actions.
I’d love to hear what and who you’re thankful for in the comments! Happy Thanksgiving!
